Published: May 22, 2013 6:03 PM EDT
Updated: May 22, 2013 6:16 PM EDT

CHARLOTTE COUNTY, Fla. - A North Port woman said her sons died fighting overseas.  Her lies convinced church members to give her hundreds of dollars. 

Now, a Charlotte County judge has ruled Shirley Duncan must pay for the crime.

"Maybe I went the wrong the way to get the pain to stop... but I had to do what I had to do for my survival," says Duncan.

Shirley Duncan didn't want to show her face but told WINK News she's glad to be home and knows it will take a while to get her life back on track.

"There's a reason a lot of people break the law some of us, its because we're crying out for help and I think I was crying out for help," she adds.

Help healing from wounds caused by an estranged relationship with her kids.

In February, Charlotte County deputies arrested the North Port woman after she made up a lie.  One where her four sons were killed fighting overseas.

Duncan told the tale to her church, the Community Life Center in Port Charlotte, set up fake funerals and collected more than a thousand dollars from friends there. 

Her lie started to unravel when a church member found out Duncan's sons were very much alive.

"I didn't do it to hurt anybody, I had to let this person go... if anybody lost anything in all this, it was me... nobody should judge anybody Because I'm sure there's a lot people out there that have skeletons in their closet and I shouldn't be judged," she adds.

Pastor Mark Coffey says, they just want to move forward as much as she does.

"I think we all feel the same we hope she learns her lesson we hope she gets on with her life and moves forward. That's kind of where all of us are," he says.